Are you ready to conquer your can’t?

Being the kid who was always picked last for sports teams really left a mark on me. I was the fat kid who couldn’t possibly excel as an athlete. The truth is I loved dancing and basketball. Perhaps if I had an encouraging coach or my peers didn’t pick on me, I would have developed skills that made playing sports enjoyable. Instead, I dreaded gym class so much that at one point I was failing. My dad was so mad at me. He asked how could I fail something so simple as gym!


I was 13 at the time and was self-conscious of my body. I worried that everything would jiggle while running. Because of that instilled fear, I was deprived of enjoying physical activities. Now at 31, I still have that fear of how my body will look like while working out. But, I don’t let that fear stop me anymore.

I developed a great routine. I’d get up at 7AM and head to the gym and do cardio for about an hour. It really got my day going. That was until a horrible break-up in New Year’s of 2017. That really set me back emotionally. I didn’t want to get up and go to the gym. It had been months since I worked out until I started Primal 7 in the spring.

Primal 7 is something I can easily do at home. If I don’t feel like driving out because of the weather or simply because I don’t want to be around people, I have this option right at home.

I was scared initially to trust the bands. I thought there was no way they could support my weight. I am 245 lbs. I was resisting to lean over with the band around my lower abdomen until my trainer said encouragingly, “Don’t worry. The bands got you. You can let go.” The bands are designed for support. I found out more information on their website (see article). They offer 3 different band options with weight guidelines and NOT RESTRICTIONS. This is because Primal 7 wants to encourage people to choose the band that is best for them.

Once I learned to trust the bands, I was able to do moves that I have never been able to do well like push-ups. I hated doing push-ups in gym class. It’s always been something I avoid due to my back pain. With Primal 7, I am now able to do push-ups. First, I lean over with the band supporting me in my lower abdomen. I reach out with my hands to touch the floor and at this position I start to crawl back to straighten out while the band is still supporting me. The band provides resistance so I can push down and up. I inhale while I push down and exhale while I push up at the recommendation of my trainer. Exhaling while I push up offers that boost to help come back up.

Another move I’ve been able to do now is lunges. And, not just any lunges, but a lunge and knee drive. I step into a Primal 7 lean. I like to call this a Michael Jackson Lean from Smooth Criminal. In this position, you are leaning back with the band around your armpits. Personally, I hold onto the green belts from Primal 7 for support. You can use your arms where needed. Take a step back into a lunge, bending the back leg so the knee almost touches the ground. Push into the front foot to return to a standing position and drive the knee back up toward the chest. Do 10 to 12 reps. Switch sides. Repeat.


I may not be able to drive my knee that high. I was wobbling when I took my first lunge on Primal 7 and there are some moves I am unable to do yet. But, that’s okay. Primal 7 is designed to meet the individual at their level and help strengthen. Progress.

And, what inspires me more to continue is the stories of so many people who’ve been sharing their journey with Primal 7. Amber, who goes by @fatforestgoddess on Instagram, decided to give Primal 7 a try after she saw one of my posts. She wrote, “my mobility is at an all time low, and moving hurts ALL the time. Gyms aren’t designed for a person of my weight, and I need an ultra low-impact option to build strength in my lower body.” I can relate so much to Amber’s experience because I have constant back pain. The periods of my life where I had minimal to no back pain were all at times when I was regularly active. I would go to the gym 3-4 times a week, go dancing, go swimming, go walking, and I didn’t feel so out of breath after climbing stairs. And, I want to be in that place again. And, full disclosure, I was still plus-size at those times. You can be plus-size and be active. You can be plus-size and still feel good.

You see the diversity of people represented in Primal 7 because that’s always been their goal. They wanted to create an inclusive community in the fitness world that had been lacking. There were so many times I avoided getting a gym membership, buying a fitness product, or quit a class for yoga, dance, or another physical activity because of how left out I felt. I didn’t feel accepted. I wasn’t represented. Nothing about that community or brand spoke to me. So, where was the sense of belonging? Where was the support? I don’t feel that way with Primal 7. It’s okay to be at my level. There’s no judgement. I can focus on me and my goals.

Are you ready to conquer your can’t?
To try Primal 7, visit https://primal7.com/for-home/ and use code “shelostrong” for a discount.

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Didn’t they tell you about Savage X Fenty?

First impressions, hot! Seeing Audrey Ritchie in that sneak peek video of Savage X Fenty got me hyped about the launch of this collection. But, there was still the big question circulating in the plus-size fashion blogosphere, “Will it fit me?”

As a plus-size woman, ranging between a size 18-20, generally 2X, I was nervous because there were no size chart details prior to the launch. All that was known was that it would go up to a 3X. That could mean anything.

But, I decided to go for it anyway and give it an honest chance and review. When the line dropped at midnight, I got queued in line. I said, “oh no, this isn’t going to work! Riri, I love you, but I have to go to work tomorrow!” So, I waited until the following day at noon and scored some pretty amazing pieces.

I instantly fell in love with the mint (Bay) color pieces like the lace bralette and high waist brief. The briefs I ordered were a 2X. And, I ordered a 3X bralette after another plus-size fashion blogger mentioned in a thread that she went to a Savage X Fenty event launch and had the opportunity to try on some pieces. She was an H cup like me and said the bralette in 3X should work. I decided to order two different style bralettes: lace bralette and wireless lace bralette. That’s definitely one of my critiques of the line since it only goes up to a 44DD in its bra selection. There is indication the line will extend to 44DDD at some point, but that still leaves a lot of women like me that go beyond a DDD cup out of options.

But, I said to myself, “I’ll take what I can get and squeeze my fat ass into it!” Of the two bralettes, the wireless lace bralette is definitely my favorite. It has added lace material that extends to my upper abdomen. And, I don’t have side boob spillage issues like with the lace bralette. While the lace bralette is beautiful and still fits, as a plus-size woman, the wireless lace bralette offers more support for under and side boob support.

And, I couldn’t complete the look without the Sheer Marabou Short Robe in Fairy Dust. The name itself screams fantasy come to life! I ordered a 2X/3X and it is divine! It’s really lightweight and playful with the marabou trimming. However, I am concerned about ripping it if I’m not careful putting it on or taking it off.

I also ordered the Flock Dot Babydoll in Bay. I am captivated by the color scheme of this line, whimsical meets sexy. I was concerned about the babydoll since I wasn’t sure about the chest support since I’m a 40H and it’s wireless. But, it hugged my chest beautifully. I tightened the straps all the way and it worked. I paired it with the matching Flock Dot Thong. I’ve never felt so sexy in a piece of lingerie.

As in love as I am with most of my pieces from Savage X Fenty, I also couldn’t get the full experience. There were plenty of items I couldn’t order because they weren’t in my size like the corsets and bodysuits. When Riri dropped a picture in this lace teddy, I was hoping it would be carried in my size. Sadly, I didn’t have this option. And, there’s vast room for improvement by extending bra sizes and offering more plus-size options.

But, I’m just going sit this right here for now…

Miss Shelo

IG: @miss.shelo

Photography: Tommy Kim