Is SHEIN or is She OUT? Brand Review

After seeing a plethora of gorgeous outfits on posts from my fashion blogger friends on social media, I decided to give SHEIN a try. You can shop online at SHEIN for the latest trends and what they say is the “one-stop-shop for the modern yet economical fashionista”. I’ve always been the type to shop flash sales and in bulk. So, price and quantity is definitely something I consider for my purchases.

What strikes me the most is the amount of options available in plus-size. It is a bit overwhelming since I am not accustomed to this many options. But, I’m not complaining! In a world where a plus-size woman can’t even go the mall to find an outfit, the more options, the better…right?

After sorting through a long list in my online cart, I narrowed it down to four pieces: a dress, jumpsuit, and two sweaters. Fall in Texas is still humid hot. So, I opted for a couple of pieces that would be stylish and appropriate for the weather down south like this flowy dress and wide leg jumpsuit.

SHEIN Plus Knot Front Striped Wide Leg Jumpsuit – Search ID: 521505

The wide leg jumpsuit is my absolute favorite piece from my order. I am a definitely a stripes lover! And, I would encourage any petite plus-size fashionista who wants to try wearing striped outfits and wide leg pants to give it a go! I’ve heard all reasons like, “I’m too chubby to wear stripes” or “I’m too short for wide leg pants!” I thought the same way too until I started breaking these absurd fashion rules for plus-size women. If there is something you are curious about trying, try it. If you don’t end up liking it, don’t wear it. But, this one is definitely a keeper for me! It’s also really comfortable and I love the tie knot detail in the front. My only critique for this piece is the material. I love the look and the fit. But, I would love this in a better quality material. It is 100% Polyester. That being said, it is really affordable, currently at a price of less than $20. And, it’s a perfect transitional piece from summer to fall. It can work for a brunch attire or work attire with a change of accessories.

SHEIN Plus Flounce Layered Neck Striped Dress – Search ID: 531475

The most striking dress I found while browsing the plus-size selections was this long flowy, brightly-colored striped dress. I knew instantly I had to have it! It would be a perfect addition to my wardrobe selection for my cruise to the island of Cozumel, Mexico. It’s beautiful, easy to put on and head out to venture with a pair of sandals and a big sun hat. You can also wear it off the shoulder too.

This would have been my favorite piece had it not been for the material. That is my biggest disappointment about the dress. I love the color and the fit. It is made of 100% Polyester. However, I will say that it is cute and trendy for the price.

SHEIN Plus Rabbit Print Faux Fur Pompom Detail Sweatshirt Search ID: 573363

Fall is here and winter is around the corner. I chose to get a sweatshirt and sweater to prepare for seasonal looks. I got this adorable white sweatshirt with a graphic of a bunny with a black pompom tail. It is super cute! I paired it with one of my favorite black leggings and knee-high black boots. And, I couldn’t resist this blush pink sweater with pearls! It goes great with jeans, leggings, or a skirt!

 SHEIN Plus Drop Shoulder Pearl Beading Jumper Search ID: 541579

For the sweatshirt, I recommend sizing up. I ordered a 2X and it was a bit snug. And, both of the items were a bit short in length for my taste. But, they’re cute and are easy to style for fall or winter looks.

My overall impression of SHEIN is that it’s a great place to find affordable and trendy pieces. I recommend checking each individual size chart for the item as sizes vary. I was a 1X in some pieces and a 3X in others. Each item lists what the materials are made of so keep that in mind. If you’re looking for trendy pieces for the season with a huge selection in plus-sizes, then SHEN is your one-stop-shop.

To shop these looks visit SHEIN and shop with Code curvy20 at checkout! It is 20% off original price and valid for the order over $59 of plus-size items.

Be sure to tag @sheinofficial  and use the hashtag #shein and show off your style!

Miss Shelo

IG: @miss.shelo

Featured Items:

SHEIN Plus Drop Shoulder Pearl Beading Jumper– Search ID: 541579
SHEIN Plus Flounce Layered Neck Striped Dress – Search ID: 531475
SHEIN Plus Knot Front Striped Wide Leg Jumpsuit – Search ID: 521505
SHEIN Plus Rabbit Print Faux Fur Pompom Detail Sweatshirt – Search ID: 573363

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Are you ready to conquer your can’t?

Being the kid who was always picked last for sports teams really left a mark on me. I was the fat kid who couldn’t possibly excel as an athlete. The truth is I loved dancing and basketball. Perhaps if I had an encouraging coach or my peers didn’t pick on me, I would have developed skills that made playing sports enjoyable. Instead, I dreaded gym class so much that at one point I was failing. My dad was so mad at me. He asked how could I fail something so simple as gym!


I was 13 at the time and was self-conscious of my body. I worried that everything would jiggle while running. Because of that instilled fear, I was deprived of enjoying physical activities. Now at 31, I still have that fear of how my body will look like while working out. But, I don’t let that fear stop me anymore.

I developed a great routine. I’d get up at 7AM and head to the gym and do cardio for about an hour. It really got my day going. That was until a horrible break-up in New Year’s of 2017. That really set me back emotionally. I didn’t want to get up and go to the gym. It had been months since I worked out until I started Primal 7 in the spring.

Primal 7 is something I can easily do at home. If I don’t feel like driving out because of the weather or simply because I don’t want to be around people, I have this option right at home.

I was scared initially to trust the bands. I thought there was no way they could support my weight. I am 245 lbs. I was resisting to lean over with the band around my lower abdomen until my trainer said encouragingly, “Don’t worry. The bands got you. You can let go.” The bands are designed for support. I found out more information on their website (see article). They offer 3 different band options with weight guidelines and NOT RESTRICTIONS. This is because Primal 7 wants to encourage people to choose the band that is best for them.

Once I learned to trust the bands, I was able to do moves that I have never been able to do well like push-ups. I hated doing push-ups in gym class. It’s always been something I avoid due to my back pain. With Primal 7, I am now able to do push-ups. First, I lean over with the band supporting me in my lower abdomen. I reach out with my hands to touch the floor and at this position I start to crawl back to straighten out while the band is still supporting me. The band provides resistance so I can push down and up. I inhale while I push down and exhale while I push up at the recommendation of my trainer. Exhaling while I push up offers that boost to help come back up.

Another move I’ve been able to do now is lunges. And, not just any lunges, but a lunge and knee drive. I step into a Primal 7 lean. I like to call this a Michael Jackson Lean from Smooth Criminal. In this position, you are leaning back with the band around your armpits. Personally, I hold onto the green belts from Primal 7 for support. You can use your arms where needed. Take a step back into a lunge, bending the back leg so the knee almost touches the ground. Push into the front foot to return to a standing position and drive the knee back up toward the chest. Do 10 to 12 reps. Switch sides. Repeat.


I may not be able to drive my knee that high. I was wobbling when I took my first lunge on Primal 7 and there are some moves I am unable to do yet. But, that’s okay. Primal 7 is designed to meet the individual at their level and help strengthen. Progress.

And, what inspires me more to continue is the stories of so many people who’ve been sharing their journey with Primal 7. Amber, who goes by @fatforestgoddess on Instagram, decided to give Primal 7 a try after she saw one of my posts. She wrote, “my mobility is at an all time low, and moving hurts ALL the time. Gyms aren’t designed for a person of my weight, and I need an ultra low-impact option to build strength in my lower body.” I can relate so much to Amber’s experience because I have constant back pain. The periods of my life where I had minimal to no back pain were all at times when I was regularly active. I would go to the gym 3-4 times a week, go dancing, go swimming, go walking, and I didn’t feel so out of breath after climbing stairs. And, I want to be in that place again. And, full disclosure, I was still plus-size at those times. You can be plus-size and be active. You can be plus-size and still feel good.

You see the diversity of people represented in Primal 7 because that’s always been their goal. They wanted to create an inclusive community in the fitness world that had been lacking. There were so many times I avoided getting a gym membership, buying a fitness product, or quit a class for yoga, dance, or another physical activity because of how left out I felt. I didn’t feel accepted. I wasn’t represented. Nothing about that community or brand spoke to me. So, where was the sense of belonging? Where was the support? I don’t feel that way with Primal 7. It’s okay to be at my level. There’s no judgement. I can focus on me and my goals.

Are you ready to conquer your can’t?
To try Primal 7, visit https://primal7.com/for-home/ and use code “shelostrong” for a discount.

I dressed like Selena for a week and this is what happened

I’ve been gordita all my life and I was bullied growing up. I found myself playing make believe at an early age that I was like Selena Quintanilla Perez. I remember dancing to Selena y Los Dinos songs in my room as a little Tejanita with hair brush in hand, boom box blasting Como La Flor.  I would tell myself that one day I was going be like her and that my life would be very different. I just had to wait until I was older and skinnier. Well, I got older and fatter. And, for a long time I hated my body. I hated myself.

I was twenty-seven when I started modeling and it helped build up my confidence. But, I found that after three years of modeling, I still had a lot of work to do on the inside. Taking pretty pictures doesn’t fix everything, it doesn’t make you hurt less. You can only see yourself differently when you change your perspective. Now let’s make something clear, body positivity and self-love are two different things. Being body positive is political and self-love is the individual journey. Here is a brilliant article that eloquently describes it better than I can.

While my belief surrounding fat people and our rights to live freely and happily, including myself, changed, I was still working on my personal journey to self-love. Something that I learned through body positivity was the right to wear what I want despite my weight, body shape, size, height, etc. When Selena’s birthday month rolled around on April 2018, I told myself I was going to pay homage to the Queen of Tejano by recreating some of her most iconic looks. For so long, I thought I couldn’t be one of those super fans that could dress like her because I am not Selena’s body type. Then, I remembered that Selena was a curvy woman. She would have wanted me and so many of her fans to live authentically and embrace the beauty that we are inside and out.

selena quote

And, what happened was magical! The Selena series resonated for many people who follow me on social media, in my opinion, because it felt like the most authentic in a way, a Tejana representing a Tejana. And, that’s powerful.

I thought I could never pull off that purple jumpsuit.  And, I was scared of that low-cut top that showed my bra. It reminded me of that unforgettable scene from Selena, the movie, where her dad, Mr. Quintanilla, played by Edward James Olmos, was like “busti-caca de la menta! Es un bra!” It’s like that in our culture. You get shamed for what you wear as a woman, a plus-size Latina at that because people tell you that you’re too gordita for that, and that’s just caca to be honest.

For a week, leading up to Selena’s birthday on April 16th, I dressed like Selena to challenge this ingrained belief that gorditas can’t wear certain things, but also to show myself that I look damn good doing it too! Sheer tops, bustiers, pleather, midriff showing, you don’t have to cover up because you are a woman or because you’re fat like me. I get to decide what I wear, when, and where.

I strutted my way to the Alamo Drafthouse in Austin, TX for a special screening of the movie Selena on her birthday in my purple jumpsuit ready for my finale. We sang along, took pictures with Selena look-alikes, ate pepperoni pizza, shook our maracas, did the washing machine move, and sang happy birthday to Selena while the room was lit with candles in honor of La Reina.

 

Miss.Shelo

IG: @miss.shelo

Photography: Tommy Kim at tommykim.net

A Little Black Dress For Any Season

The little black dress is a must have for any fashionistas wardrobe, a classic piece for any occasion or season. When you think of summer, black may not be the first color that pops out. But, it should. Black, like white, is a canvas to add color. And, that’s exactly what I did with my Tessa Ruched Dress from Kiyonna.

Kiyonna is a plus-size brand that has curvy women in mind when designing their dresses. This vintage-inspired dress has a romantic feel with ruched sleeves and handkerchief hem skirt that rests beautifully on a curvy body. The ruched waistband creates a beautiful silhouette by cinching at the waist. The ruched sleeves can also be worn off-the shoulder. And, the bonus? This little black dress has pockets!

For a summer night out,  I wanted to keep my look elegant and a little playful with a pop of color. Red has always been my go-to color to add a little splash. I paired the little black dress with a red clutch with rose detail and red tassel earrings.

What’s great about a little black dress is the versatility. You can pair it with black pumps and diamond earrings for an elegant, classic look for a wedding or special event. Slip on some bright, colorful wedges and grab your favorite print clutch for brunch with friends for a chic summer look.

The Tessa Ruched Dress in black is perfect for any season, even summer! And, you can also get it in a gorgeous sangria color or two beautiful floral prints! And, they’re 100% American made. Check it out here.

Be sure to sign up at Kiyonna for exclusive offers and get your perfect little black dress designed with you in mind.

Miss.Shelo

IG: @miss.shelo

Photography: Tommy Kim Photography

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Sophisticated Curves Box Review

Waiting in anticipation for my subscription box from Sophisticated Curves, I searched the website to get an insight as to what I could potentially get in my box. And, it made me more excited! Brands like Kiyonna, Eloquii, IGIGI, Nordstrom, Lane Bryant, and so many more are available to select.

To get the full experience of the subscription service, I selected the Fashion and Style Box. The box includes: 2 Dresses/Outfits; 3 Fashion Accessories; and Pamper Me Items. Additionally, there are two other boxes available: Fashion Subscription Box and Fashion Accessories Subscription Box. Each respective box comes with options for subscription duration. Check out their amazing options here.

When my box arrived, I was elated. I quickly opened it and found everything perfectly packaged and wrapped in tissue paper. There was even a little “Thank You” note. I went straight to unwrapping the garments and found I’d received two beautiful Kiyonna dresses.

This mauve Whimsy Wrap Dress is perfect for a daytime spring/summer look to grab brunch or enjoy a stroll on the boardwalk. I paired the outfit with some gold hoop earrings included in the box as accessories, and my jeweled strap heels and new white clutch. You can never go wrong with a wrap dress!

The second was a “wow factor” Kiyonna dress. The Valentina Illusion Dress is a bodycon that hugged me perfectly. I was a little scared looking at the dress that I would not be able to fit it over my chest since I am pretty wide in the bust and hip area. However, the material stretches and hugs my curves beautifully. I slipped on some black pumps and paired it with some diamond stud earrings included as an accessory in the box. There was also a beautiful floral print clutch wallet included. This is definitely a classic look perfect for any night out.

What was a pleasant added item was the Cherry Blossom Lotion & Mist Spray from Bath & Body Works included. It’s one of my favorite scents from their signature collection. Who doesn’t love Bath & Body Works?!

With all that’s included in the subscription box, it’s really worth it. And, there is flexibility in duration and price range. I cannot wait for what’s in store in my next box! It’s sure to be a pleasant surprise!

Miss.Shelo

IG: @miss.shelo

Photography: Tommy Kim Photography

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Crushin’ On Me in Velvet

Turning 30 in 2017 represented a huge milestone in my life in more ways than one. I could see that my fashion style evolved from forever being stuck in forever 21 to being thoughtful about what I wear. I started to think more about the quality of my purchases and how to integrate them into my own style.

For this gorgeous velvet pantsuit from Eleven60, I decided to throwback to the 60’s when the beehive reigned supreme.

I paired the outfit with diamond stud squared shades (affiliate link) and silver booties inspired by the disco era. My aim was to integrate the inspiration from the 60’s and 70’s without being costume-like and something a woman could envision herself wearing for a night out or for corporate chic wear (minus the beehive).

And, as a plus-size fashionista, I appreciate a good pair of dress pants. My concern with velvet has always been, “Can I move in it? Will it look flattering on me?” I have an hourglass figure, wide hips, muffin top, and a small bum. I am hesitant to purchase any kind of slacks. So, I default to black leggings as an alternative to pants. I am happy to say that the velvet pants for this outfit were not restricting, and I dare say look hella good on me. The fabric is breathable, and the velvet material has some stretch for the curvy woman.

The blazer design is also impeccable. There is black tulle under the tail of the blazer, which gives it that gorgeous, dramatic bump in the back. Pair it with a black turtleneck sweater or black sheer bodysuit with bralette for a chic look.

I had the best time styling this outfit, and I felt like I was wearing something women I aspire to be would wear (a.k.a. JLo & Beyoncé). You don’t have to be a celebrity to look fierce in your every day.

Miss SheLo

IG: @miss.shelo

Photographer: Tommy Kim

All the Single Ladies, Put Your Hands Up: Creating My Own Single Lady Guide

I’ve been listening to a lot of empowering music by women lately like Lizzo, Beyoncé, Selena, and Adele post break-up. Music can be therapeutic and it certainly put things into perspective for me about how my break-up was actually a good thing.

I found these powerful messages in music to guide me in being single and happy.

“Get a bigger smile on my face, being alone” – Beyoncé – Don’t Hurt Yourself

I’m happier being single without him than being with him and miserable. There’s a saying in Spanish, “mejor sola que mal acompañada”, which translates to, “I’d rather be alone than in bad company.” Beyoncé also raises a strong message about consequences for your partner’s actions. When someone lies to you, cheats on you, or abuses you emotionally or physically, there are consequences for those actions. You must hold people accountable. It is imperative to command respect and know your worth. In the end, it’s their loss, and your gain to be rid of a toxic relationship.

 “When you hurt me, you hurt yourself. When you play me, you play yourself.”

“Best thing I never had”—Beyoncé—Best Thing I Never Had

Queen Bey certainly does not disappoint when it comes to uplifting songs for women experiencing heartbreak. Love can be blind? No, obsession can lead to poor choices like staying with someone who does not value you. That’s what happened to me. After cutting off all communication, I was able to see things more clearly. I could see that the loss of this relationship was not a loss at all. The best thing that could have happened was the demise of this relationship early on rather than later. And, I was able to have hope for better things to come.

“I put the sing in single. Ain’t worried ‘bout a ring on my finger”—Lizzo—Truth Hurts

Lizzo’s Truth Hurts is the ultimate break-up anthem and I’m all here for it. So many songs cling to this happy ending where you find new love in a new man. Songs like that can send a troubling message about love with a partner being the end goal or the only goal. Self-love is important too. And, I had to stop putting so much pressure on myself to find someone to settle down with and marry. There’s nothing wrong with being single. There are so many pressures from society when “women of a certain age” aren’t engaged or married yet. This is why I love the lyrics from Lizzo’s song because they emphasize the importance of self-love and worth.

 “Si una vez dije que te amaba no lo vuelvo hacer. Ese error es cosa de ayer. (If I told you once I loved you, I will never do it again. That mistake is of the past.)”—Selena—Si Una Vez

Selena’s music has kept my spirits up through difficult times in my life from my parent’s separation to heartbreaks as a teenager. In her song, Si Una Vez, she sings about an ex you regret saying, “I love you” to.  You hear people say all the time that you shouldn’t live with regrets. I think this message does not apply to every situation. I regret being in a toxic relationship when I had several chances to walk away and choose me. And, I can say that I regret saying, “I love you.” I may not regret the love itself, but I can say I regret my words and affections when they were undeserving of the person on the receiving end. Love is not just a feeling, it’s put into action. It allows me to recognize when love is reciprocated and when it is not. Having a relationship of any kind that is unbalanced is unhealthy. It may not always be straight down the line 50/50, but it should never feel one-sided.

“Up in the club, just broke up. I’m doing my own little thing.”—Beyoncé—Single Ladies

It’s important to embrace the fun aspect of being single. Whether going out with your girlfriends, sprawled in the middle of the bed all to yourself watching Netflix or reading a book, there are things to enjoy when you’re single. You should enjoy these even when you’re not single. But, I appreciate them so much more now. I recognize that I should never change my identity or compromise my self-worth whether I’m single or in a relationship.


Miss Shelo

IG: @miss.shelo

Photographer: Tommy Kim