Is SHEIN or is She OUT? Brand Review

After seeing a plethora of gorgeous outfits on posts from my fashion blogger friends on social media, I decided to give SHEIN a try. You can shop online at SHEIN for the latest trends and what they say is the “one-stop-shop for the modern yet economical fashionista”. I’ve always been the type to shop flash sales and in bulk. So, price and quantity is definitely something I consider for my purchases.

What strikes me the most is the amount of options available in plus-size. It is a bit overwhelming since I am not accustomed to this many options. But, I’m not complaining! In a world where a plus-size woman can’t even go the mall to find an outfit, the more options, the better…right?

After sorting through a long list in my online cart, I narrowed it down to four pieces: a dress, jumpsuit, and two sweaters. Fall in Texas is still humid hot. So, I opted for a couple of pieces that would be stylish and appropriate for the weather down south like this flowy dress and wide leg jumpsuit.

SHEIN Plus Knot Front Striped Wide Leg Jumpsuit – Search ID: 521505

The wide leg jumpsuit is my absolute favorite piece from my order. I am a definitely a stripes lover! And, I would encourage any petite plus-size fashionista who wants to try wearing striped outfits and wide leg pants to give it a go! I’ve heard all reasons like, “I’m too chubby to wear stripes” or “I’m too short for wide leg pants!” I thought the same way too until I started breaking these absurd fashion rules for plus-size women. If there is something you are curious about trying, try it. If you don’t end up liking it, don’t wear it. But, this one is definitely a keeper for me! It’s also really comfortable and I love the tie knot detail in the front. My only critique for this piece is the material. I love the look and the fit. But, I would love this in a better quality material. It is 100% Polyester. That being said, it is really affordable, currently at a price of less than $20. And, it’s a perfect transitional piece from summer to fall. It can work for a brunch attire or work attire with a change of accessories.

SHEIN Plus Flounce Layered Neck Striped Dress – Search ID: 531475

The most striking dress I found while browsing the plus-size selections was this long flowy, brightly-colored striped dress. I knew instantly I had to have it! It would be a perfect addition to my wardrobe selection for my cruise to the island of Cozumel, Mexico. It’s beautiful, easy to put on and head out to venture with a pair of sandals and a big sun hat. You can also wear it off the shoulder too.

This would have been my favorite piece had it not been for the material. That is my biggest disappointment about the dress. I love the color and the fit. It is made of 100% Polyester. However, I will say that it is cute and trendy for the price.

SHEIN Plus Rabbit Print Faux Fur Pompom Detail Sweatshirt Search ID: 573363

Fall is here and winter is around the corner. I chose to get a sweatshirt and sweater to prepare for seasonal looks. I got this adorable white sweatshirt with a graphic of a bunny with a black pompom tail. It is super cute! I paired it with one of my favorite black leggings and knee-high black boots. And, I couldn’t resist this blush pink sweater with pearls! It goes great with jeans, leggings, or a skirt!

 SHEIN Plus Drop Shoulder Pearl Beading Jumper Search ID: 541579

For the sweatshirt, I recommend sizing up. I ordered a 2X and it was a bit snug. And, both of the items were a bit short in length for my taste. But, they’re cute and are easy to style for fall or winter looks.

My overall impression of SHEIN is that it’s a great place to find affordable and trendy pieces. I recommend checking each individual size chart for the item as sizes vary. I was a 1X in some pieces and a 3X in others. Each item lists what the materials are made of so keep that in mind. If you’re looking for trendy pieces for the season with a huge selection in plus-sizes, then SHEN is your one-stop-shop.

To shop these looks visit SHEIN and shop with Code curvy20 at checkout! It is 20% off original price and valid for the order over $59 of plus-size items.

Be sure to tag @sheinofficial  and use the hashtag #shein and show off your style!

Miss Shelo

IG: @miss.shelo

Featured Items:

SHEIN Plus Drop Shoulder Pearl Beading Jumper– Search ID: 541579
SHEIN Plus Flounce Layered Neck Striped Dress – Search ID: 531475
SHEIN Plus Knot Front Striped Wide Leg Jumpsuit – Search ID: 521505
SHEIN Plus Rabbit Print Faux Fur Pompom Detail Sweatshirt – Search ID: 573363

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I dressed like Selena for a week and this is what happened

I’ve been gordita all my life and I was bullied growing up. I found myself playing make believe at an early age that I was like Selena Quintanilla Perez. I remember dancing to Selena y Los Dinos songs in my room as a little Tejanita with hair brush in hand, boom box blasting Como La Flor.  I would tell myself that one day I was going be like her and that my life would be very different. I just had to wait until I was older and skinnier. Well, I got older and fatter. And, for a long time I hated my body. I hated myself.

I was twenty-seven when I started modeling and it helped build up my confidence. But, I found that after three years of modeling, I still had a lot of work to do on the inside. Taking pretty pictures doesn’t fix everything, it doesn’t make you hurt less. You can only see yourself differently when you change your perspective. Now let’s make something clear, body positivity and self-love are two different things. Being body positive is political and self-love is the individual journey. Here is a brilliant article that eloquently describes it better than I can.

While my belief surrounding fat people and our rights to live freely and happily, including myself, changed, I was still working on my personal journey to self-love. Something that I learned through body positivity was the right to wear what I want despite my weight, body shape, size, height, etc. When Selena’s birthday month rolled around on April 2018, I told myself I was going to pay homage to the Queen of Tejano by recreating some of her most iconic looks. For so long, I thought I couldn’t be one of those super fans that could dress like her because I am not Selena’s body type. Then, I remembered that Selena was a curvy woman. She would have wanted me and so many of her fans to live authentically and embrace the beauty that we are inside and out.

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And, what happened was magical! The Selena series resonated for many people who follow me on social media, in my opinion, because it felt like the most authentic in a way, a Tejana representing a Tejana. And, that’s powerful.

I thought I could never pull off that purple jumpsuit.  And, I was scared of that low-cut top that showed my bra. It reminded me of that unforgettable scene from Selena, the movie, where her dad, Mr. Quintanilla, played by Edward James Olmos, was like “busti-caca de la menta! Es un bra!” It’s like that in our culture. You get shamed for what you wear as a woman, a plus-size Latina at that because people tell you that you’re too gordita for that, and that’s just caca to be honest.

For a week, leading up to Selena’s birthday on April 16th, I dressed like Selena to challenge this ingrained belief that gorditas can’t wear certain things, but also to show myself that I look damn good doing it too! Sheer tops, bustiers, pleather, midriff showing, you don’t have to cover up because you are a woman or because you’re fat like me. I get to decide what I wear, when, and where.

I strutted my way to the Alamo Drafthouse in Austin, TX for a special screening of the movie Selena on her birthday in my purple jumpsuit ready for my finale. We sang along, took pictures with Selena look-alikes, ate pepperoni pizza, shook our maracas, did the washing machine move, and sang happy birthday to Selena while the room was lit with candles in honor of La Reina.

 

Miss.Shelo

IG: @miss.shelo

Photography: Tommy Kim at tommykim.net

A Little Black Dress For Any Season

The little black dress is a must have for any fashionistas wardrobe, a classic piece for any occasion or season. When you think of summer, black may not be the first color that pops out. But, it should. Black, like white, is a canvas to add color. And, that’s exactly what I did with my Tessa Ruched Dress from Kiyonna.

Kiyonna is a plus-size brand that has curvy women in mind when designing their dresses. This vintage-inspired dress has a romantic feel with ruched sleeves and handkerchief hem skirt that rests beautifully on a curvy body. The ruched waistband creates a beautiful silhouette by cinching at the waist. The ruched sleeves can also be worn off-the shoulder. And, the bonus? This little black dress has pockets!

For a summer night out,  I wanted to keep my look elegant and a little playful with a pop of color. Red has always been my go-to color to add a little splash. I paired the little black dress with a red clutch with rose detail and red tassel earrings.

What’s great about a little black dress is the versatility. You can pair it with black pumps and diamond earrings for an elegant, classic look for a wedding or special event. Slip on some bright, colorful wedges and grab your favorite print clutch for brunch with friends for a chic summer look.

The Tessa Ruched Dress in black is perfect for any season, even summer! And, you can also get it in a gorgeous sangria color or two beautiful floral prints! And, they’re 100% American made. Check it out here.

Be sure to sign up at Kiyonna for exclusive offers and get your perfect little black dress designed with you in mind.

Miss.Shelo

IG: @miss.shelo

Photography: Tommy Kim Photography

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Didn’t they tell you about Savage X Fenty?

First impressions, hot! Seeing Audrey Ritchie in that sneak peek video of Savage X Fenty got me hyped about the launch of this collection. But, there was still the big question circulating in the plus-size fashion blogosphere, “Will it fit me?”

As a plus-size woman, ranging between a size 18-20, generally 2X, I was nervous because there were no size chart details prior to the launch. All that was known was that it would go up to a 3X. That could mean anything.

But, I decided to go for it anyway and give it an honest chance and review. When the line dropped at midnight, I got queued in line. I said, “oh no, this isn’t going to work! Riri, I love you, but I have to go to work tomorrow!” So, I waited until the following day at noon and scored some pretty amazing pieces.

I instantly fell in love with the mint (Bay) color pieces like the lace bralette and high waist brief. The briefs I ordered were a 2X. And, I ordered a 3X bralette after another plus-size fashion blogger mentioned in a thread that she went to a Savage X Fenty event launch and had the opportunity to try on some pieces. She was an H cup like me and said the bralette in 3X should work. I decided to order two different style bralettes: lace bralette and wireless lace bralette. That’s definitely one of my critiques of the line since it only goes up to a 44DD in its bra selection. There is indication the line will extend to 44DDD at some point, but that still leaves a lot of women like me that go beyond a DDD cup out of options.

But, I said to myself, “I’ll take what I can get and squeeze my fat ass into it!” Of the two bralettes, the wireless lace bralette is definitely my favorite. It has added lace material that extends to my upper abdomen. And, I don’t have side boob spillage issues like with the lace bralette. While the lace bralette is beautiful and still fits, as a plus-size woman, the wireless lace bralette offers more support for under and side boob support.

And, I couldn’t complete the look without the Sheer Marabou Short Robe in Fairy Dust. The name itself screams fantasy come to life! I ordered a 2X/3X and it is divine! It’s really lightweight and playful with the marabou trimming. However, I am concerned about ripping it if I’m not careful putting it on or taking it off.

I also ordered the Flock Dot Babydoll in Bay. I am captivated by the color scheme of this line, whimsical meets sexy. I was concerned about the babydoll since I wasn’t sure about the chest support since I’m a 40H and it’s wireless. But, it hugged my chest beautifully. I tightened the straps all the way and it worked. I paired it with the matching Flock Dot Thong. I’ve never felt so sexy in a piece of lingerie.

As in love as I am with most of my pieces from Savage X Fenty, I also couldn’t get the full experience. There were plenty of items I couldn’t order because they weren’t in my size like the corsets and bodysuits. When Riri dropped a picture in this lace teddy, I was hoping it would be carried in my size. Sadly, I didn’t have this option. And, there’s vast room for improvement by extending bra sizes and offering more plus-size options.

But, I’m just going sit this right here for now…

Miss Shelo

IG: @miss.shelo

Photography: Tommy Kim

Crushin’ On Me in Velvet

Turning 30 in 2017 represented a huge milestone in my life in more ways than one. I could see that my fashion style evolved from forever being stuck in forever 21 to being thoughtful about what I wear. I started to think more about the quality of my purchases and how to integrate them into my own style.

For this gorgeous velvet pantsuit from Eleven60, I decided to throwback to the 60’s when the beehive reigned supreme.

I paired the outfit with diamond stud squared shades (affiliate link) and silver booties inspired by the disco era. My aim was to integrate the inspiration from the 60’s and 70’s without being costume-like and something a woman could envision herself wearing for a night out or for corporate chic wear (minus the beehive).

And, as a plus-size fashionista, I appreciate a good pair of dress pants. My concern with velvet has always been, “Can I move in it? Will it look flattering on me?” I have an hourglass figure, wide hips, muffin top, and a small bum. I am hesitant to purchase any kind of slacks. So, I default to black leggings as an alternative to pants. I am happy to say that the velvet pants for this outfit were not restricting, and I dare say look hella good on me. The fabric is breathable, and the velvet material has some stretch for the curvy woman.

The blazer design is also impeccable. There is black tulle under the tail of the blazer, which gives it that gorgeous, dramatic bump in the back. Pair it with a black turtleneck sweater or black sheer bodysuit with bralette for a chic look.

I had the best time styling this outfit, and I felt like I was wearing something women I aspire to be would wear (a.k.a. JLo & Beyoncé). You don’t have to be a celebrity to look fierce in your every day.

Miss SheLo

IG: @miss.shelo

Photographer: Tommy Kim

All the Single Ladies, Put Your Hands Up: Creating My Own Single Lady Guide

I’ve been listening to a lot of empowering music by women lately like Lizzo, Beyoncé, Selena, and Adele post break-up. Music can be therapeutic and it certainly put things into perspective for me about how my break-up was actually a good thing.

I found these powerful messages in music to guide me in being single and happy.

“Get a bigger smile on my face, being alone” – Beyoncé – Don’t Hurt Yourself

I’m happier being single without him than being with him and miserable. There’s a saying in Spanish, “mejor sola que mal acompañada”, which translates to, “I’d rather be alone than in bad company.” Beyoncé also raises a strong message about consequences for your partner’s actions. When someone lies to you, cheats on you, or abuses you emotionally or physically, there are consequences for those actions. You must hold people accountable. It is imperative to command respect and know your worth. In the end, it’s their loss, and your gain to be rid of a toxic relationship.

 “When you hurt me, you hurt yourself. When you play me, you play yourself.”

“Best thing I never had”—Beyoncé—Best Thing I Never Had

Queen Bey certainly does not disappoint when it comes to uplifting songs for women experiencing heartbreak. Love can be blind? No, obsession can lead to poor choices like staying with someone who does not value you. That’s what happened to me. After cutting off all communication, I was able to see things more clearly. I could see that the loss of this relationship was not a loss at all. The best thing that could have happened was the demise of this relationship early on rather than later. And, I was able to have hope for better things to come.

“I put the sing in single. Ain’t worried ‘bout a ring on my finger”—Lizzo—Truth Hurts

Lizzo’s Truth Hurts is the ultimate break-up anthem and I’m all here for it. So many songs cling to this happy ending where you find new love in a new man. Songs like that can send a troubling message about love with a partner being the end goal or the only goal. Self-love is important too. And, I had to stop putting so much pressure on myself to find someone to settle down with and marry. There’s nothing wrong with being single. There are so many pressures from society when “women of a certain age” aren’t engaged or married yet. This is why I love the lyrics from Lizzo’s song because they emphasize the importance of self-love and worth.

 “Si una vez dije que te amaba no lo vuelvo hacer. Ese error es cosa de ayer. (If I told you once I loved you, I will never do it again. That mistake is of the past.)”—Selena—Si Una Vez

Selena’s music has kept my spirits up through difficult times in my life from my parent’s separation to heartbreaks as a teenager. In her song, Si Una Vez, she sings about an ex you regret saying, “I love you” to.  You hear people say all the time that you shouldn’t live with regrets. I think this message does not apply to every situation. I regret being in a toxic relationship when I had several chances to walk away and choose me. And, I can say that I regret saying, “I love you.” I may not regret the love itself, but I can say I regret my words and affections when they were undeserving of the person on the receiving end. Love is not just a feeling, it’s put into action. It allows me to recognize when love is reciprocated and when it is not. Having a relationship of any kind that is unbalanced is unhealthy. It may not always be straight down the line 50/50, but it should never feel one-sided.

“Up in the club, just broke up. I’m doing my own little thing.”—Beyoncé—Single Ladies

It’s important to embrace the fun aspect of being single. Whether going out with your girlfriends, sprawled in the middle of the bed all to yourself watching Netflix or reading a book, there are things to enjoy when you’re single. You should enjoy these even when you’re not single. But, I appreciate them so much more now. I recognize that I should never change my identity or compromise my self-worth whether I’m single or in a relationship.


Miss Shelo

IG: @miss.shelo

Photographer: Tommy Kim

Fashion Therapy 101: How To Dress Like A Boss Babe When You Don’t Feel Like One

Post break-up, I was finding it difficult to get back to my old self again. I wasn’t getting up to do my make-up, hair, and I was just throwing stuff on to get out of the door and to work.  And, to be honest, it’s completely normal. When you go through a loss, whether it’s a break-up, a fall-out in friendship, or the loss of a loved one, you can experience an array of emotions.  It can be difficult to get out of bed, your routine is out of whack, and all the while you’re trying to process the event.

The most important thing at this time is self-care.  Allow yourself to be in those sweats all day. Do what you can to be presentable at work. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You’re going through a lot and sometimes certain things take a back seat when you’re trying to heal.

With that being said, fashion can be therapeutic. I know this to be true through my own journey toward body-acceptance and self-love. When I was in an unhealthy relationship, I lost my sense of self, my identity. And, I’m working on myself every day to find out who I am now after that break-up.

When I started to feel like doing my make-up, hair, and put thought into my outfits, it was because of these tips. Here’s how to dress like a boss babe.

Get Inspired By Your Favorite Style Icons

I draw inspiration often from style icons like most people do. Everyone has their favorites and one of mine is Maria Felix, a woman who exuded a powerful presence and exceptional style. That’s something I wanted to radiate at a time when I felt weak.

Maria Felix, Mexican cinemas golden age goddess, and also known as La Doña for her role in the film Doña Bárbara, is undoubtedly one of the most iconic figures of México. High fashion brands like Christian Dior, Givenchy, Yves Saint Laurent, Chanel, and Balenciaga regularly dressed Felix. Her bold, chic, and elegant choices made her style timeless. I love her choice of statement pieces like extravagant jewelry paired with simple yet chic outfits like a black turtleneck sweater and trousers. And, her take-no-nonsense attitude toward the machismo culture makes her even more of a role model for me.

“We should only cry for a man three days… On the fourth, you put on heels and new clothes.” – Maria Felix

A Proper Fit is a Must

Drawing inspiration from Felix, my wardrobe choices recently have focused on finding a style that is right for me. But, even with the opportunity to buy the most chic pieces, nothing will make you feel stylish if the garment doesn’t fit well. Tailoring has become essential for many plus-size fashionistas. Think about it, top brands and indie designers face the same challenge in trying to design for an array of women when there is so much variance in body type. Not every woman who is a size 18 has the same body shape. So, it can be challenging to create pieces that fit most body types.

But, brands are taking feedback from their customers and creating different options for petite plus-size women as well as different body types. This Black Dolman Romper from Artista Apparel required no alterations. It was a perfect fit for me, and it has some give  for women of different shapes and sizes. Any designer or seamstress will tell you it’s all about the construction of the piece.  Something that fits you properly will instantly make you feel confident about what you’re wearing.

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Wear Something Out of Your Comfort Zone

I’ve avoided wearing certain clothes all my life because as a big woman, you’re given these fashion rules you must adhere to. We all know some of the most notorious, which are:

  • Wear black because it’s slimming.
  • Don’t wear bold prints.
  • Avoid horizontal stripes because they make you look wider.
  • Avoid sleeveless pieces because your arms should be covered.
  • Don’t go crazy with color.
  • Don’t wear things that draw attention to your “problem areas” such as your tummy or arms.

I could keep going with this list, but I think my point has come across. And, I was no exception to having this ingrained in my head. Before I started modeling and blogging, my wardrobe was pretty bland. I hardly wore dresses or prints. And, as I started taking fashion risks, I found that I loved the way I looked in dresses and bold prints. But, there was something I’ve avoided until now and that’s rompers and jumpers.

I’ve had a negative experience with rompers and jumpers. Since I am short, they tend to be long and always require taking up the hem. But, that doesn’t bother me so much as the way they ride up. Can we say camel toe? And, if they didn’t ride up, they would bunch up with an excess of material in the crotch area. It’s the worst feeling to love how something looks but on someone else. So, I thought I was done with them. But, I decided to give it one more shot. And, I’m glad that I did! I absolutely love how I look in this romper. It fits well, I love the design!

Just because something doesn’t look good on you once doesn’t mean that it will always be this way. Perhaps that crop top just didn’t fit you well from one brand. But, that doesn’t mean that every crop top is off limits for you. Experiment with fashion, have fun, and you’ll find that it’s empowering for you to try new things. And, if you don’t like it, don’t buy it. You’re the one in charge of what goes on your body. You make the fashion rules!

Fashion therapy can never replace therapy when you need help. But, self-care is vital when you’re dealing with a life event. I found that in my own journey toward healing post break-up, I decided to surround myself with supportive friends, find inspirational messages about love and relationships, take time to write about it, and continue to do things that I love like modeling. I needed to shift the focus back to me instead of that other person, and fashion has been a way for me to express myself. I want more than anything to look like a boss babe. The truth is that I am a boss babe even though I don’t feel like one all the time.

 

Miss Shelo

IG: @miss.shelo

Photographer: Tommy Kim